30 SEC READING: why do we shout in anger?

I found this great reading this morning and thought I would share with everyone.  Please take the time to read.  It helped me get a fresh perspective on things today.  I feel like often times, and I'm sure other women do as well, that we are constantly going and going without ever getting a break.  I notice in myself that certain things my children or husband do start to upset me over time which leads to yelling or arguing.  I want to find a way to lessen this in my life so things can be handled in a more calm and compassionate manner. After stepping back and looking at the bigger picture I notice I start to have these feelings when I feel less appreciation from my family, resulting in feelings of anger.  As a wife and mother, I want to be able to listen more and yell less, without having these feelings of anger come up and lead to shouting, arguing, etc.  Everything that comes behind that anger ends up being lost with receiving party.  We lose the other person's ear, respect, love, and so on.  For myself and my sanity, I want to get past these feelings and find resolutions to the problems that cause these situations.  More understanding of myself and better communication of the message are things that I can work on without letting anger get the best of me.  Looking more into your heart for love and less for words may help.  Sometimes the words just seem to clog things up.  Thank you to the author of this article this morning for reminding me that love can conquer all!     30 SEC READING: why do we shout in anger?

30 SEC READING: why do we shout in anger?by PAULO COELHO on JANUARY 9, 2012
A master asked his disciples:‘Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?’the disciples thought for a while, and one of them said‘Because we lose our calm, we shout for that.’‘But, why to shout when the other person is just next to you? ‘Isn’t it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice? Why do you shout at a person when you’re angry?’The disciples gave him some other answers but none satisfied the master.Finally he explained:‘When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other through that great distance.’Then the master asked:‘What happens when two people fall in love? They don’t shout at each other but talk softly, why? Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very small…’And he concluded:‘When they love each other even more, what happens?‘They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love.‘Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that’s all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.’